Well, my wife has encountered her first workplace bully in her new job. He’s, by her description, an old school middle age man, allegedly ex-army, pot bellied with a very “do what I say” attitude. I don’t like men like that, I loath bullies in the first place and the ones with a sense of superiority and entitlement really get to me.
Back when I was a kid, my grandfather taught me that; when they [bullies] use a stick, find a bigger stick. That worked for me for quite sometime. Any fucker who tried it on, I would find after school and hurt, sometimes quite badly. As some regular readers of my twaddle will know, I’m pretty much an empathic psychopath.
So having done some research into workplace bullying it’s pretty evident that there is a disconnect between the reality of a workplace (irrespective of gender dominance) and the theory behind managing bullying. In our politically correct western world, we have this belief that the authorities are there to protect and support us. Well, it’s not the case, it’s reactive rather than proactive and any authority will go to significant lengths to protect their reactionary behaviours, rather than be proactive. If you extend that logical thought a proactive environment is a much more productive one and increased productivity means greater income.
Being proactive requires analysing and assessing a situation before it happens and then using observation to nip it in the bud early. Whilst most of the online information is about assessing, identifying and reporting that you are being bullied that doesn’t help the individual whilst it is going on – you still have to live and suffer it with little in the way of support.
Not good, not good at all. In a conversation with my wife, we discussed her initial interpretation and observation of the man who will become her workplace bully. Once her description was complete, I agreed that this particular man is the Kapo/Camp Guard/ gesetzlichen Ordnung, by that I mean he is using a mid level position to bully, push around, be disrespectful or dominate subordinates or co-workers. Now how can this he dealt with?
There is the legitimate route that you can take, document, record, diarise and report. That takes time. In order to support and help my wife, she needs a secure safe home environment (I hope I provide that), next is the financial support (we don’t have that, I don’t provide any financial support) and lastly the belief that the authorities in the workplace will support her (again my above point covers that).
So how about a radical new departure; I’m tempted to ring my wife’s employers work place and have a pre-emptive strike and inform them that there is unacceptable behaviour in the workplace on my wife’s behalf. Second, is to contact the man in question directly and threaten him in such a way that if he does anything that makes my wife even slightly uncomfortable, he will suffer the direct action consequences of making me unhappy because of his behaviour to my wife.
So there you have it, my new approach to resolving workplace bullying. Does anyone have any thoughts, coments constructive advice?