Unashamedly taken verbatim from captainawkward.com, it’s so good it needs to be shared as is

I’ve taken the below chunk of advice directly from captain awkward. It’s the best piece of how to manage time and work/life balance. It’s sufficiently detailed and nicely generic enough for any one to be able to try to put it into practice. It’s part of a much bigger article about someone’s personal circumstances so I’m including the link so as to act as a connection to the original source

Here is one tiny tool that might help. It’s something I use for time management when I get stressed or need to figure out a new routine. Print out a couple of copies (or make a version that roughly reflects your waking/active hours using the software or calendar app of your choice) and fill it in. You can plan in weekly increments or two-week increments which sometimes works better, since not everything happens every single week. To use the tool:

First, add obligations: classes, work, places you have to be. Include the time you spend commuting and studying/preparing.

Second, add self-care things: Therapy appointments. Workouts. Grocery shopping, food prep, laundry, bill paying, chores. Standing social engagements. My friend B. has something she calls “Wife Night” where she acts like her own (traditional meaning, used ironically) wife – sewing on lost buttons, paying bills, doing the laundry, changing the sheets, all of the routine maintenance stuff of her life. This is the stuff that you have to do to maintain your quality of life.

Third, add pleasurable/fun things: Your favorite TV show, time with friends, time to read for pleasure, time to go to the movies or a concert, time to play your favorite video game. You can put this stuff second if you want to, it too is important, and it too is self-care.

Fourth, add future-oriented stuff: You’re a university senior, so set aside one hour/week to work on/think about future stuff. Looking at job listings for things you might want to do. Working on your resume. Picking up an extra skill. Journaling about what you want to be when you grow up. Attending campus events and networking sessions.

Fifth, mark out a block of time and call it “Family.” That block of time, every week, or every other week, or once a month (whatever you can do sustainably) is when you engage with your mom family.

Not everyone’s priorities would or should happen in this order. I hope this is obvious to people reading. 

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